I am 5'11" tall approx 195 lbs. Mostly muscle: waist 35" chest 44". I'm not built for speed, but
for power. I usually work out 2-3 times a week lifting weights and aerobics for a total of just over an hour. I am in better
condition than when I was in my mid 20's. I have endurance to hike or whatever all day long. I like feeling so youthful. I
hope I can keep it going for many more years. I have all my own teeth and own hair. : )
I'm handsome, if fact, if
I was more handsome, people would think I'm gay. :) I'm intelligent. I have a 137 IQ. Smart enough to do the
job but not too much of a brainiac. I am a straight divorced man.
I have had about 10 years of living as
a single person. How time flies when you're having fun! I am looking for a long term relationship with a person who is easy
going, low maintenance, and can be flexible since I have a unique lifestyle. (see what I do for a living below).
I am an easy going person. I usually wear workout shorts and a tee shirt and cross training shoes. I dislike
getting dressed up in a tie. Even though I do get very GQ looking. I am basically a Caribbean person living in Silicon Valley.
Things I Won't Do:
1. An evening at the ballet.
3. "Extreme" sports actually designed to injur or kill.
4. Nasty hard drugs...Please don't even bring them around me.
5. Disloyal to my friends/loved ones.
6. Compromise my integrity
You will most probably NOT like me if:
1. The terms "fabulous" and/or "perfect" are used by you almost daily.
2. You think "skinny dipping" is for kids and definitely not you.
3. Materialism is more important than people to you.
4. You have competition issues with your neighbors/friends.
5. Fame is important to you.
6. Your life is totally multitasking AND you like it that way.
One thing you NEVER have to ask me:
What am I thinking. I am a very open person and you will know what I think and How I feel about things...including
My Philosophy of life:
There is an optimum for everything. The trick is: Finding where the optimim is, and
the optimum is constantly moving. I live by the "golden rule". I don't lie, cheat, steal, to the best of my ability. It just
makes life easier. I'm honest, open, and blunt. Overly for some people who are reserved and have issues in that area. I'll
say what is on my mind.
I am an Altruist...one who unselfishly promotes the welfare of others. As long as they will also help themselves out
at the same time.
I live by another saying: "Negative emotions are a manifestation of a misinterpretation of reality". This boils down
to: If I am angry, I have to accept that I had something to do with my getting that way. I find that this is the hardest concept
for people to understand. Their anger gets in the way of their possibly understanding that their actions (or inactions) up
to this point, led up to every event in their life happening.
I recently watched the movie "American Beauty" as well as watched a few TV shows like "E.L.Raymond" and "Yes Dear". I
noticed "The Honeymooners" which was probably the first big show to portray men as afraid of their women. Is this
fear because their mothers were the primary disciplinarian when they were growing up?
It seems to me, the person who one would least like to be afraid of is your relationship. How can you have quality
intimacy with someone you are afraid of? If you are afraid of your relationship, how can she respect you as being
a man? I have had a great relationship with my mother and I love women. Fear and women are not in the same
"book" to me.
I am totally pro choice when it comes to a woman's right to choose. This doesn't mean to use abortion as a
primary means of contraception. More like if all else fails, this should be the right of every woman. I also think
the "morning after" pill should be distributed by any pharmacy free of charge as well as handed out in schools. I'm
willing to have my tax $ go for that more than maintaining presence in Iraq.
I have opinions. Yet, at the same time I am the most open minded person I know. This doesn't mean that
I am "right". Everything is on a sliding continuum and there is no such thing as "right". In my personal life,
rarely do I have an argument. My reasoning is that nobody "wins" an argument and the closest a person can come to "winning"
an argument " is to be the first to apologize. Both parties have responsibility. You loose your power when you raise
your voice in an argument.
Drugs and Alcohol:
I have never used "hard" drugs. I don't care if someone ever used hard drugs in
their lives. I know of very few people (if any) that haven't tried them. I just don't want them as a way
of my life.
I drink 2-4 drinks a month. Lately it's been Infused Mango martini's at Steamer's in LG. I drank alone
3-4 times in my life and I didn't like it. To me, it is a social thing. I 've partied twice at the Bomba Shack on Tortola
at the full moon party. They claim to have "mushroom punch"...all I know is I had a great time and I'm definitely going back!
FLASH!!! I went back to Bomba Shack 7-10-06 and the punch was lame at best. Avoid it and take a cooler of beers/bottled
drinks with you to leave in your car. No use paying $4/drink for orange juice with some maybe dark rum poured
The Sex-Love Connection:
I believe that love is very important in life. I have never had sex with someone I didn't have loving feelings for and
I have never been to a prostitute. For me, sex is only good with someone I love or at least have strong loving feelings
I think sex is both fun and funny. Obviously it was made to be enjoyable. I can't understand why people take it so seriously.
Sometimes just "going for it" is great. Other times, some adventure is the BEST!
With the right person, just comfortable loving is the BEST. I am a cuddler after sex. I call it "afterplay." Falling
asleep in each others arms afterwords is great by me, even though I am usually the last one to fall asleep.
I like a woman that is not too big (A, B, or C cup size) on top. A "Double D" cup can be just
too much. Most of this depends on the frame of a woman. What I can't understand is a petite woman that goes
from a B cup to a double D with implants. This is usually a gross disfigurement as well as a lifetime of hassles
with bra straps digging into her shoulders and back pain.
I am a very passionate man. I like intimate sex at least 3 times a week for a night/afternoon/evening of loving. I enjoy
the intimacy of quality TIME spent together.
I live by the "Golden rule of relationships." That is: Never do something that you wouldn't do in front of your
wife/girlfriend.... It takes the guesswork out of relationships and makes everyone happy.
What I read:
Fact over fiction. Pure and simple. I just love learning. Be it the History channel, or a book, or the Internet. Knowledge
is power and it makes life much more enjoyable and easier. Learning is my hobby. Sharing knowledge with others is an enjoyment.
I do for a living:
I am an Investor/Professional Manager. Apartment complexes, Securities, whatever will make me a
good return on my money.
I really like swing trading and make very good money doing such. It's an activity I do when I
have the time and desire. Which hasn't been lately. It's good money for little work even though a bit stressful at times.
My work day consist of about 6-20 phone calls, dealing with managers, teaching employees how to perform their tasks
better or more efficiently, dealing with attorneys and legal matters, socializing with friends, handling paperwork, more paperwork,
banking, meetings with accountants, dealing with vendors, making multi thousand dollar decisions several times a day.
love public speaking and went to Toastmasters about a year ago and won the "best speech ribbon" even though I was a guest
and had no speech prepared.
I mostly quit working for a year when I was 29. I got bored and wanted to get back into the race. I'm glad I did.
I love the challenge of making and running a well oiled machine. Still I'm selling all my apartment complex investments in
2007 and getting out of the business. It's time to move on to something new.
On being me:
I am realizing the scope of being me. I have a life like no other person I know. I don't have a 9 to 5 job. I work
out of my home so I have no concept of a commute time or just how bad rush hour can be.
I dropped off a friend's kid at high school recently and I never knew about the gridlock surrounding schools. I
walked to school along the creek since I was in 4th grade. Now, you are a "bad mom" if you don't drive "jr" to school
until they drive themselves? What is wrong with this world? Perhaps this over parenting has gone a bit too far.
I don't have to dress up or even shower to work until I leave my office around 1:00 and I'm back home or visiting
a friend by 3-4 including taking a lunch.
I am often in my robe until I shower, doing my paperwork and phone calls. I travel for fun and relaxation. I usually
vacation for 4 to 8 weeks a year.
Most people who know me well, either wish they were me or they were my dog. Being my dog is a very good life!
A few things that you might wish to know about me:
I have never been arrested or in trouble with the law (besides
a few traffic tickets). I am tenacious as hell when something is worth my time. I wear size 11 shoes. Yes, I color my hair
to get rid of some of the gray. I started getting gray hair in my late 20's. I am healthier now than I was when I was in my
20's. I am well endowed. I have no STD that I know of. I was part of a test of a vaccine to prevent Herpes since my "ex" had
them and I didn't wish to get them. I never got Herpes...looks like the vaccination worked. :)
I usually go to sleep around 11 and get up out of bed between 7 and 8. I wake up around 7 to 8 am on weekends
and sit in bed for a while reading the morning newspaper. I usually spend 30 minutes +/- listening
to the radio, or watching the news while hanging with my dog. If time permits, I watch Regis and Kelly for 15 minutes.
The first 15 minutes of their show is the best daytime tv going. I'm not an addict about this. We are talking 1-2
I get the San Jose newspaper Friday -Sunday and read/flip through some if it while still in bed. I've
trained my dog to get the paper since my driveway is 350' up hill and I don't like to make that walk first thing in the am.
Especially when it's raining. Labs love the rain. Isn't life wonderful.
I LOVE to take a shower...once or twice a day. I love to sing in the shower. Yes, I usually sing. To take
a shower is like being reborn.
I wipe off the glass shower door when I finish showering (3 seconds). It makes it nicer between times the housekeeper
comes (every other week). I am clean but living is such a small home, (1100 sq ft.) I tend to be cluttered in such a small
I have not used the clothes dryer in 3+ years. I always have other clothes I can wear and it takes only a
day to line dry them. (two days in winter). This, and some household recycling, is what I do for the environment which
has been so good to me. I'm not against machine drying but why when it's so easy to line dry? Do we really need
to have everything done so fast all the time?
I'm generous with my friends but I love to get a great deal! I've bought
two stereos because they were a great deals. I gave one to a friend. I never pay much over $300 to fly anywhere in the
USA. A little Internet search will usually get me there for less.